I usually stay away from this kind of topic - but I think it's worth touching on because 'romance' can be such an important part of life - at any age - and I promise o keep it clean.
Seductive Text Messages
What do you think when you hear the term seductive text messages?
Are you one of the lucky ones who is already comfortable with the skill?
Have you tried and had a bad experience?
Does your mind go right to the raunchy and you get a knot in your stomach thinking you can't do "that" because you're a 'nice girl'?
Or, do you just dismiss the idea with a laugh?
Text Seduction Tips
If you think you might like to try this mild form of sexting - read on. If you're in a trusting relationship and think it might be fun or might spice things up a touch - consider these tips and see if you feel comfortable trying them. (I don't really recommend this if you're not in some sort of a relationship because it comes off as desperate and easy if you go for seduction before the relationship is "there.") It's not like you have to send naked pictures of yourself anyway - and you don't have to "talk genitalia" to do this. It's kind of like sexting for beginners.
Tip 1: Be true to yourself. Tat might sound overly simple, but if you try to force something raunchier than you are comfortable saying (or doing) - it's going to come out sounding fake. What's worse - you might end up kind of committed to doing something you don't really WANT to do.
Tip 2: Keep the suggestions veiled. For example, write something like, I can't wait to feel your skin against my lips. Or - I am longing to feel your strong arms around me as I taste the saltiness of your skin. Keeping your suggestions veiled tells your mate you are thinking of them, that you WANT them, and it lets THEIR imagination sizzle imagining the parts you didn't write.
Tip 3: Practice a little. Write the things you want to say, but don't send them. Hold onto them for a day or two. Read and re-read them while you assess your comfort level with what you have written and what you are suggesting.
Tip 4: Practice a LOT. The more you write these mildly erotic words, the easier it gets. Before you know it, you'll be comfortable writing wilder and wilder messages. If you really struggle with it, write an erotic fiction short story. Make a up a lead woman that you want to be, and let her say the things in your wildest imagination to HER mate. Put it in a password protected file if you worry about someone reading it, and have fun with it.
Tip 5: This one is the most important. Don't be so hard on yourself. Let yourself have some fun. It is both fun and VERY freeing emotionally to just let yourself play and have some fun with your luvver. If you're reading a blog about menopause - it's about time you cut loose and quit worrying what someone else thinks- and have some frickin' fun. (Sorry for the borderline swearing there.)
